How to get medical help with the red-flag of mental illness in your file

It’s no secret that I have become friends with my mental illnesses. I have denied them, hid them, fought them, accepted them, lived with them, shared them and embraced them. I have learned the things that I need to do in order for them to be my friend rather than my enemy. We now work together to allow me to live a happy, thriving life, and I use them to help so many other people in the process. They are a part of me just like any other part of me. I am comfortable with them and stronger than them; wiser than them, and they rarely try to fight me anymore.

Which is why I find the way that I am treated in the emergency room so offensive.

Someone warned me recently that if the ER sends me for a psychiatric evaluation it will put a big red flag in my chart. I told her, “Don’t worry. That big red flag has been in my chart for as long as I can remember. I’m used to it.”

On August 6th I collapsed in my home where I live alone. Thankfully I didn’t loose consciousness and was able to protect my head from slamming into the hard tile floor. My parents were out of town so I called my 77 year old grandma, sobbing. She rushed to my home only a few blocks from hers, and luckily she has a key. She put me over her back and practically carried me to the car where she took me to Delta Hospital Emergency.

I’m sure its no surprise to anyone that its not easy for a 77 year old woman to carry most of the weight of a 25 year old, so when we arrived she made me wait at the car while she got me a wheel chair, scared that I might collapse again and bring her down with me. This seems to be a common symptom for me these days – my knees or ankles giving out – usually I am able to catch myself with my other leg or grab onto something for support but once in a while I can’t, or both legs go out at the same time.

She wheeled me into the ER, got me checked in, sat with me a bit, and then left to get a newspaper. Of course the moment she left was the moment that the nurse began calling my name to take me in from the waiting room.

“Denise Askin… Denise Askin!?” the nurse kept calling as I waved my arms from the wheelchair.

“I’m over here,” I kept responding.

“DENISE ASKIN!!!” she shouts.

“I’m in a wheelchair,” I call back while flailing my arms in hopes she will come to help me.

When she finally approaches me she looks at me with disgust and without trying to hide the disgust or annoyance in her voice she asks me, “Well can you walk?!”

“Uh, umm, uh,” I stutter, “well, umm, I’m here because I collapsed.”

“Well did you walk to the car to get here?” she practically spits at me.

“Uhhh with a lot of help,” I whisper in shock.

“Well come on then!”

I think shes going to help me up, maybe take my arm to steady me. Instead she turns and walks toward the doors, me shuffling unsteadily behind her. As she approaches the doors, me struggling 10 steps behind,  she turns to tell me to hurry up.

Embarrassed, degraded, angry and sad, I sit in the line of chairs where you wait to be seen by a doctor. Over 3 hours go by without a doctor or a nurse even speaking to me. This is fine, I understand I was not high priority, I was managing my pain and sitting quietly with my grandma. I wasn’t gushing blood or on my death bed. I understood this and continued to wait patiently, grateful for my cell phone distraction and the company of my grandma.

Eventually I decided to try to walk and get a cup of water. I shuffle to the nurses station and begin to ask a nurse where the water station was. “Are you Denise Askin?” she asks.


“Here, I have your ativan for you.”

I look in her little paper cup and see a large, white ativan that she seems to think I need to take. I recognise it with fear, as I’ve only ever taken that large of dose once before at the dentist and it made me so high that I had to phone back the next day to make sure I paid my bill.

“I didn’t ask for ativan,” I tell her, confused.

“The doctor wants you to take it. Just put it under your tongue,” she responds matter-of-factly.

At this point I’m very confused as to why this is being given to me, and I ask her why the doctor wants me to take it and how I can possibly be prescribed ativan without any doctor or nurse even speaking to me first. Is that even legal? I don’t think it could possibly be ethical. Then another nurse comes up behind me, “Denise? We’re ready to run some tests on you,” then to the first nurse, “did you give her her ativan?”.

“She’s refusing to take it.” the nurse replies.

Great. Now I’m crazy and defiant.

The second nurse encourages me to take the pill and still cannot tell me why or how I’ve been prescribed it in the first place. “Do I look like I’m having a panic attack to you?” I finally ask.

“Well, no…” she responds.

“Great. Then if I start to have a panic attack I’ll take it. But for now I am not anxious and I’d like to be able to explain to the doctor what’s wrong before being drugged.”

And guess what – I never did have a panic attack or get anxious during this visit, and my blood tests showed that my eosinophil levels were abnormally high. This is the white blood cell that fights infection. Imagine that. Someone with a history of mental illness coming to the hospital for something besides mental illness. Crazy right? Unfortunately, when you have that big red flag in your file, it is generally assumed that every time you walk into the hospital or doctors office, there is nothing wrong in your body and everything wrong in your head. You will never be treated with the same dignity and respect as someone who does not have that big red flag. Anyone with that big red flag will always have to fight harder for the same care and respect that someone without it receives. This is not just my opinion, ask anybody else who has it and I’m sure they’ll tell you the same – I know I’ve asked many people with history of mental illness and they’ve all said the same to me.


Tuesday I started to feel confused. Then I lost my ability to speak. I could see the words right there in the front of my mind, but I could not for the life of me figure out how to get those words from my brain to my mouth. And then I got a sharp shooting pain through the left side of my head and my legs went out from underneath me. Suddenly I was on the floor.

On our way to the emergency room I wrote on a napkin to my mom, “Do not mention Lyme”. Because my mom has sat in on Lyme support group meetings with me and also is in my online support group, she has seen everybody else’s warnings to not mention Lyme disease in Canada to an MD or in an emergency room because all they will do is send you for a psychiatric evaluation. Unfortunately my dad was not aware of this, and when the nurse was in asking questions he did what anyone unknowingly would have done, and said, “but I thought it was Lyme disease?”. And that was that. The nurse went on to explain that Lyme disease does not exist here, and I wrote down on a piece of paper (still unable to verbalise), “Canada does not recognise chronic or late stage Lyme.” The nurse read this and went on to tell us that the US doesn’t recognise it either. I know is not true because that is where my blood gets sent to and I have met several people through support groups who go to the states for their treatment. However, I still couldn’t speak and I didn’t have the energy to try to argue it so I let her continue to tell me that they would do their best to help with the immediate situation but would not be getting to the core of what’s deteriorating my body and brain.

After about 4 frustrating hours of trying to be able to get the words from my brain to come out of my mouth, my pain started to flare up. It started in my left knee, then trailed down my leg and into my foot, spreading through each of my joints and into my eyes. Then all of a sudden my head, neck, eyes, and ear pain shot through the roof. I went from calmly laying in the hospital bed to sobbing and kicking because the pain was so intense. I’m unsure of how long this went on for before suddenly I felt something in my head clear and I said “I think I can speak again,” and just like that the words didn’t get trapped in the front of my brain anymore and instead flowed freely out of my mouth like I had expected them to all along. So now my inability to verbalise was gone, replaced with unbearable pain.

The next bit is a blur and I’m really unsure of how much time passed but they hooked me up to an IV and filled me with fluid and pain killers. I’m not sure how long I slept for, it may have only been 20 minutes, but it was the best rest I’ve had in a significantly long time. It wasn’t until I had the relief from the IV pain killers that I realised just how much pain I’ve been living with for so long. I think after a while it just becomes the norm and maybe we aren’t always aware of just how much pain our bodies are trying to function with until its gone.

Sometime during my rest the resident who had been tending to me came in with a doctor who I hadn’t seen before. This doctor then told me that there was nothing wrong with me physically, and to please wait for a call for a psychiatric evaluation. He then went on to explain that Lyme disease doesn’t exist here, and that even if it did, he has worked in Lyme-endemic areas before and that the main symptoms are joint pain and a rash, and that it wouldn’t present itself in this way. Well, that’s funny, because I have an online support group of 1700 other people in Canada who have the same symptoms as I do as well as an in-person support group that is run by an MD, who also agrees with the rest of us. My mom even posted in the online support group when I went into the hospital to see if anyone else has ever lost the ability to speak or experienced anything that I was experiencing at the time. Many people responded to her thread saying that yes, this is something that has happened to them and that usually the only thing to do is sleep it off. One woman even commented that she lost her ability to speak for 3 months.

“Actually, there is a public health map available online that shows that we live in a Lyme-endemic area here in Ladner, BC,” I told the doctor.

“Yes, well, we have found ticks here with the Lyme bacteria, however you cannot get Lyme disease here.” he responded.

Shocked at the blatant contradiction in his single sentence I gave up and let him go on about how someone would be calling me in the next few days to set up my psych evaluation.

I could skip the evaluation, but that, I’m sure, would only add fuel to their fire and give them more reason to not treat me next time. I have no reason to fear the evaluation either, so therefore I will go – and when I do go, and pass it, what will the doctors do then when they no longer have mental illness as their scape goat? Don’t get me wrong – I understand why they’re sending me there. I have a history of mental illness, the Canadian testing for Lyme is not accurate (they only test for antibodies which many people stop producing after being sick for a long time, please watch a short video here, this video is based in Europe but explains really well what is also happening in Canada and why we can’t get proper treatment and testing here) and they can’t or won’t figure out whats wrong with me. So therefore, they have to pass me off onto someone, and mental illness is the easiest scape goat. I also appreciate and respect the fact that they do need to rule out mental illness, and although my family doctor and I know that this is not due to mental illness, the ER doesn’t necessarily know that and still has to cover their asses, and since Delta Hospital does not have an MRI machine and I’m already waiting for a neurologist appointment that was marked urgent by one of their internists, checking my mental wellness is all that’s left for them to do.

What’s ironic is that 12 hours after leaving the ER I got a phone call to see if I could see a psychiatrist that day! In all of my years battling mental health I don’t think I had ever gotten in to see a mental health professional that fast. I battled long wait lists and can remember phoning and phoning different agency’s with no response and begging to get in to see someone quicker. When I was in the thick of my fight with mental illness I would have given anything to see a psychiatrist that quickly and get on the road to recovery. If that’s what I was battling now I would have dropped everything to be able to get to that appointment on Wednesday. However since its not, I wasn’t willing to miss work for it and will be going next week instead.

Meanwhile, the neurologist referral that was marked urgent and sent to Jim Pattison is what I really need right now. My Internist assured me that I would be getting in very quickly due to its urgent nature, and yet when I phoned to check on the timeline, the staff at Jim Pattison informed me that although it was marked urgent by the referring Internist, the doctors there deemed it routine, and I had been put onto a year long wait-list.

I know that a lot of people feel strongly that our medical system is the best in the world, but I have to respectfully disagree. I fought for years to receive the mental health treatments that I needed, and now that they’re not what I need they’re the only thing the doctors here are willing to give me.

Threads of Beautiful Lessons

Its funny how things change, and the threads of beautiful lessons that can be found, woven through seemingly utter chaos and pain.

I have time trackers on my computer from less than a year ago, documenting every minute of my day to see where I could squeeze in more productivity. Every second of my life was scheduled in attempt to do better, be better, grow my businesses faster. It was all just a coping mechanism to try to control the direction of my life while my home was in utter destruction. I was trying to manage it all – a home, a partner, his kids, two businesses, a third job, covering all the bills, leaving said relationship, starting over, keeping my businesses growing – and the only way to keep myself sane was to incessantly schedule everything. But trying to control my life and everything around me was like trying to rein in a tornado. I see that now, as I see that life has a funny way of showing us what we are doing wrong, as I’m currently struggling to schedule anything at all. Not for lack of time, will or drive, but for lack of health.

I went from having an unhealthy amount of structure, to no structure at all.

I feel like one day looked like this (random day copied from my time tracker):

6-6:15 – bathroom,  dog in crate, set up coffee

6:15-7:10 – meditation, personal development, video uploaded for team, 1 post, fed dog and let out, gratitude journal

7:10-7:40 – made breakfast

7:40-8:30 – ate breakfast outside while checked in to trainings and notifications, posted to groups,

8:30-9:40 – workout

9:40-10:00 – take care of dog, sit outside and create posts about workout

10:00-11:00 – shower, hair, makeup, dressed for salon, laundry,

11:00-11:20 – put away dishes, tidied up, made shake, set up work space

11:20 – 12:00 – power hour

12:00-1:00 – visit with friend and family

1:00-1:20 – filled out meal planner and made lunch, responded to a couple messages

1:20-1:40 – took care of dog, packed stuff into my car, organized for work

1:40-5:00 – work at salon

5:00-5:15 – had a break walked into town to run an errand

5:15-8:30 – worked at salon

8:30-9:00 – took care of dog, ate dinner

9:00-10:00 – started filling out mandatory questionnaires for before my specialist appt which is next week

10:00 – bed

And overnight it turned to this:

7:30 – wake up, absorb the pain streaming through my legs and body, tell my body to open my eyes, figure out what day it is, lay in bed adjusting to the pain.

7:45 – get up, feed dog, realize how difficult it is to function, take medicine, wait 10 minutes before I can lay back down, and go back to bed.

10 – attempt to get up again. Self-talk my way to the kitchen while I debate if my stomach is up for eating, and if it is, what it can stomach. Realize that I have no energy to cook anyways and it hurts too much to stand, and make a shake or toast instead and go back to the couch.

11 or 12 or 1 or whenever happens to be an hour before my day at the salon starts I begin the self-talking again in order to shuffle to the shower, because my legs still aren’t ready for the day.

If it’s a day that I have to wash my hair (every second day) then I don’t wear makeup, because I can only manage shampoo and blowdry OR makeup, not both. And if it’s a day off then probably neither – although if it’s a day off I’m probably still on the couch and it doesn’t matter.

I put together some yogurt and an apple, and if I’m lucky anything else that I feel I can stomach that day and head to the salon where I spend the day standing, forcing a smile, listening, sympathizing, and being grateful for my incredible clientele, all while pretending that I’m not in pain from head to toe, the walls are not closing in on me, and I don’t have electric shocks shooting through my skull.

8pm – I come home, I feed the dog, I go to bed.

I’m so tired of fighting every day. Of having to put a positive spin on every shitty symptom and flare up and loss. Of knowing each morning before I have to get ready that in 15 minutes I will wipe my tears, shuffle to the shower through the pain, get dressed, go to physio or whatever doctor appointment I have and then put on a happy face for 8 hours of styling people’s hair. I know that I will keep fighting because it’s the only choice I have. But this sucks. And I’m tired of fighting. I’m tired of pep-talking my way through each day and pretending while I smile at clients and friends that I don’t have electric shocks randomly slicing through my head or that the smell of the chemicals doesn’t make my head feel like it’s going to burst or that I don’t feel like vomiting or that I didn’t just talk myself through piercing pains through my chest or down my arm or legs going weak. Or that I don’t feel like I am watching the walls closing in around me as I colour my clients hair.

I don’t schedule my life anymore because I simply don’t know what I’ll be able to do when. This past Sunday I had an awesome day. I cooked, I cleaned, I went to the market, I visited my brother and his step-daughter, I had a friend over, I lived like I normally would. Monday, I crashed. I spent the rest of the week slipping out of the salon between clients to cry and trying to figure out how I’ll make my life work if I become unable to work.

I miss when every day was like Sunday.

You see when life gets rough, or when extra expenses arise (which they sure do when the only available treatment is private!), its in my nature to work harder and longer. To schedule every second of my day so that I can be the best, most efficient, most productive person I possibly can be. To organize every penny I spend into a spreadsheet so that I can most effectively see where I can cut and save. To take control over every aspect of my life that I can, to power through the storm and come out stronger on the other side.

Life has now hit me with a giant corn maze in the fall. Its foggy and grey and has no clear route. One has to stumble down many dead ends before they may find the clearing on the other side. And its heavy. It weighs you down more and more as you crawl through the thick, sticky fog until eventually, someone has to carry you the rest of the way.

I don’t like to be carried. So I kept pushing. Even when my body said stop I kept working. Picking up even more shifts in order to cover the piles of medical expenses. Scheduling clients earlier and later than normal, squeezing people in to accommodate them without considering my own needs. And spent the week crumbling more and more as each day went on.

Tonight I finally slowed down and I realised that I’ve been trying to rein in a tornado.

Its funny how things change, and the threads of beautiful lessons that can be found, woven through seemingly utter chaos and pain. And I do believe that there is a twisted, beautiful lesson interwoven here that may stitch up a few wounds. Keep the routines that include self-care. Be flexible. Be kind to yourself. Slow down long enough to see the lessons. Then find a way to adjust, recreate, and continue moving forward.

When I finally find my way out of this maze I will be a new person with new lessons learned and gifts to give. I believe I will be more grateful for every day life. More empathetic to those with chronic physical or neurological illnesses. More able to let go of the negative things and people in life. I believe that when I crawl my way out of this I will live more beautifully. I will be greater than I ever was when I was incessantly scheduling, and I will have more to give back to this world. I will be more forgiving of not only others, but of myself. I may even be able to forgive our distorted medical system; but then again, lets not push it.


Less than a year ago by this time in the morning (8:45 am) I would have already completed my meditation, personal development reading, affirmations, to-do list, workout, breakfast, and be sitting at my desk helping all my incredible fitness challengers and coaches prepare for their days.

Today, instead, I am grateful that it’s a nice morning and that I’m able to get myself outside to sit for the 10 minute period after my meds that I’m not allowed to lay down. I’m grateful that I have other coaches helping me run my groups so that I can keep working. As I try to balance out what pills I can and can’t eat with and can and can’t take together I’m grateful that this week I only have 9 to juggle instead of last week’s 15. I’m focusing on how good a day Sunday was and how productive I was able to be instead of on how much I paid for it yesterday and this morning.

I’m focusing on being grateful because I know that no matter how many mornings I wake up in pain or feel like I can’t keep fighting there are so many other people who have it so much worse than I do and I have an incredible life that I worked really hard to create that I have to keep fighting for.

My healthiest to my sickest in 12 months

Last August I was at the healthiest and happiest I’d ever been. I was down a total of 38 pounds, loved my new lifestyle, was eating right and exercising daily. I was stronger both mentally and physically than I’d ever felt before. Although I was super stoked on having arm muscles instead of jiggly wings for the first time in my life, it was so much more than a physical thing. I could officially say I was off of all of my meds, and had overcome my anxiety and depression, and that when anything like that did pop up I was able to cope with it in comfortable, healthy ways.

I felt so at peace with my own self. This was it! I was ready to live the happy, healthy life that I’d always been waiting for!

Then mid August, soon after a trip to Dawson Creek, where I had been visiting family, hanging out with farm animals, riding horses, walking trails, atv-ing etc., I came down with both a sinus infection and bronchitis. At the same time. In the middle of summer. I was going through a highly stressful transition at home and blamed stress for the infections and tried to go on with life, but my body seemed to have other plans for me. Now whether this was when I contracted what caused the sudden and drastic shifts on my life, or if this was simply the trigger for what was already living inside of my body, I may never know.

The following months I knew something was off. I tried going to a naturopath, I continuously told my GP that something was wrong, but my blood tests always came back normal. I started getting numbness in my limbs and fingers and toes, then came sciatica and other electric shock-like nerve pain. I kept telling my mom that it felt like I wasn’t recovering after my workouts like I normally did. I remember telling her once that it was as if even though my brain really liked the more intense workouts that I was doing, my body didn’t. She of course told me that it was just me adjusting to stronger workouts and basically to suck it up, which I did. But I found that couch time was becoming more and more frequent, I was starting to really struggle and I couldn’t figure out why.

Fast-forward to February 2015 and my symptoms had increased to the following:

  •  Bloating and severe cramping in pelvic area
  • Sciatica
  • Found 3 minor disc bulges
  • General feeling of over-whelm in my body
  • Noise sensitivity
  • Weakness in hands, wrists, legs, ankles and feet, both sides
  • Hair thinning from the scalp
  • Exhaustion
  • Dizzyness/lightheaded
  • Heart palpitations
  • Trouble concentrating
  • Electric shock nerve pain
  • Feeling like all my insides are vibrating against my skin
  • Feeling like my eyes are vibrating
  • Feeling like my brain is vibrating
  • Involuntary movements/muscle spasms
  • Shakiness
  • Weak
  • Muscle pain
  • Joint pain
  • Pain all over/migrating
  • Headaches
  • Worse vision
  • Eye pain
  • Confusion/forgetfulness/memory loss
  • Unsteadiness
  • Tingling /pins and needles
  • Muscle fatigue
  • Intense night sweats
  • Intense, bed-soaking night sweats

But my blood tests were all still clear. Finally my doctor told me I had Central Sensitivity Syndrome. Well excuse me but I believed this was a bullshit answer. “WHY do I have CSS? What has CAUSED my CSS?” my doctor was unable to answer. I was put on a 2 year wait list for the Complex Chronic Disease Clinic and basically told to learn to live with it. I continued to get sicker and sicker, and it seemed that no one in the medical industry could or would help me.

As I continued to get sicker, a few people kept mentioning Lyme Disease to me, to which I responded “no one gets Lyme Disease anymore, obviously I don’t have that.” But after several people mentioned it to me I decided I should look up some of the symptoms, and they were all a match. I asked my doctor for the test and he told me that we don’t get Lyme Disease around here, but he would test for the antibodies, which came back negative.

Fast-forward to August 2016 and me at my sickest, adding the following to my symptom list:

New or worsening:

  • Dots in my sight
  • Stomach pains
  • Disrupted sleep
  • Random bruising
  • Heart palpitations
  • Jaw stiffness and pain
  • Tingling pressure sensations in my forehead
  • Eye pain
  • Antsiness in my muscles
  • Extreme upper abdomen pain
  • Weak legs
  • August 6th collapsed
  • Feels like my eyes aren’t processing properly
  • Upset stomach
  • Intense pressure inside of my head, neck and behind my eyes
  • Intense joint pain
  • Knee gives out
  • Pain in the bottom of my foot
  • Intrusive, uncontrollable thoughts
  • Depression
  • Anxiety
  • Panic Attacks

I now know that against popular belief, I live in a Lyme endemic area. I have now met several people in my town and surrounding towns who have Lyme or Chronic-Lyme Disease. I now know that the doctors in Canada do not treat for chronic-lyme out of fear, that the testing in Canada is much less than accurate, and that they cannot read the private testing from the states. That our testing only tests for one antibody, not the disease itself, and that when you’ve been chronically ill for a long time your body stops producing those antibodies and white blood cells that are used to fight the infection. And that even though there is a public health map showing that I live in a Lyme-endemic area, the doctors here refuse to admit that Lyme exists in Canada. I now know that the only way to get properly tested and treated for Lyme Disease in Canada is to find a Lyme-Literate Naturopath (LLND), or, a very rare Lyme-Literate Medical Doctor (LLMD) who has opted out of MSP in order to be able to treat Lyme, or to go to the US to a LLMD there. All of these options are private and expensive and the only option to save your life. I now know that other illnesses such as Fibromyalgia, CSS, Mental Illnesses, Chronic Fatigue Syndrome and many more are often related to Lyme and mis-diagnosed. I have also learned that Dr. Dietrich Klinghardt from the Sopia Institute has stated that in 5 years they have never found an MS, ALS or Parkinsons patient who did not test positive for the same bacteria as Lyme (Borrelia Burgdorferi). I’ve now personally experienced the judgement that can come from both doctors, family and friends when you say you might have Lyme disease, and I now understand why those who suffer with it often suffer in silence.

When I was first battling the idea, and I mean seriously battling, partially because I didn’t believe it could be true and possibly because I feared that it was true, I reached out to a long time friend who I thought would see me through everything and he responded with “obviously you don’t have Lyme don’t be ridiculous”. When I showed him my symptom list, which as you can see was extremely long by summer 2016 when this conversation happened, he responded with “hah, I’ve had each of these symptoms at some time or another, does that mean I suddenly have Lyme Disease too?”. I allowed this judgement to silence me.

As of August 2016 I am now being treated for Lyme and co-infections. This experience has opened my eyes to our health-care system and its life-threatening flaws in a whole new way. It has shown me some of the battles that people with chronic illness fight. It has taught me the lessons of the spoon theory, and the battles of not looking sick. I’ve learned which friends stick close, checking in and supporting me and which ones bail – most will bail. But I’ve been pleasantly surprised with the ones who have stuck around and I will never forget it. No one has seen me at my worst, but I have one friend who has really shown his true colours and seen me worst than anyone but my mom. Although most of our visits are still laughter and fun and a lot of crib games, he’s also sat with me through 30 minute long panic attacks, the panic hangover, severe pain and weakness, met me at my house after emergency room visits, and today spent the entire day with me while my symptoms were so high that I could only stop crying for short periods of time from 9:30am until mid-afternoon, when he dropped me at a fellow Lyme-friend’s house and returned to pick me up, make me toast, cure my head pain with peppermint oil and distract me with a game of crib before taking me home in the evening. This is more than I could ever ask for in a friend and an incredible glimmer of hope when I thought everyone gave up on me. There has been no judgement, no need to defend myself, just friendship, laughter, competition, a lot of Netflix, a safe push to get out and do things when I can, and a shoulder for when there are tears.

I’ll never give up on the friends who appear to have given up on me, because that’s just not who I am. But learning who has the guts to stick around is only one of the many important lessons that I am and will continue to learn on this twisted trail.

As I’ve begun to meet other people who are fighting Lyme, I’ve learned how lucky I am to have found treatment within 1 year of my symptoms progressing, as well as how lucky I am to still be able to work. I am so grateful to work in two jobs that I love surrounded by amazing, incredibly supportive peers and clients. I don’t know how I’d make it if I had to lay in bed all day like some people do; they’ve found the strength to keep going and I’m sure I would too, but I’m so forever grateful that I’ve started treatment before that happened.

I’ve been keeping most of this to myself out of fear. Fear of judgement, fear of what I have yet to learn, but I think most of all, the fear that saying it out loud will make it true. But it is true, and the truth has always set me free. A diagnosis doesn’t have to be a sentence, it can be a relief. A door that leads to a greater understanding and treatment and the ability to heal.

I may struggle for now, and I’ve had to slow down, but I am still working, attending meetings for both of the boards that I sit on, and enjoying as much of life as I can. I am grateful for all that I can still do, and am so looking forward to going into remission and returning to the healthy, happy person full of life that I was last July!

And, thanks to a push from a friend, I am writing again. And I hope to keep going.

Sometimes I may have to crawl, but I’ll never give up.